How To Generate Attraction - No Matter Your Looks
by Joseph Matthews

One of the main issues I contend with, when dealing with my students is their idea of not being attractive enough to attract women.

This insecurity comes in various shapes and sizes.  For instance:

Some guys think they're too old.

They could be too fat.

Some think they're too short.

Some men think they are too ugly.

Many men feel hopeless when it comes to attracting the woman they desire, because of such feelings.

But lucky for all of us - this simply isn't the case.

I want to take a moment and dispel a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.

Myth #1 - You must be good looking to attract women.

Look around this world and notice the different types of men, who date beautiful women, you will find this myth is not true.

Of course it is essential to look good, however, it you do not have to be good looking.

How is there a difference?

The difference is, you may not escape your looks, but you do control your presentation of what looks you do have by the way you groom and wear your hair as well as how you smell and the clothes you wear, and so forth.

All these appearance factors contribute to "looking good."

Any man can be attractive when he controls his appearance.

Myth #2 - Women and Men Think Alike

Naturally, we all think that everyone sees things in the same way you see those things.

For instance - If you've ever had a pimple on your forehead that felt so big, it was like everyone could see it.  But the pimple was under the skin, and in reality, no one but you could tell it was there.

You can see it plainly, while others may not notice it at all.

When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied.  You judge a woman based on how she looks, right?  You're able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?

You naturally assume that women size you up in the same manner.

This assumption is a mistake.

Women judge men differently to decide on an attraction than men do, although that is not to imply that a woman would not care if a man were attractive or not. Even so, women do not consider physical characteristics in the same way as men do.

To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look.  That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status.  They're attracted to men who make them laugh.  They're attracted to men who are good at what they do.  See how this works?  Looks have very little to do with any of this.

Myth #3 - Women Notice A Man's Uncertainty And Insecurity

Since we know our own selves, much better than anyone in the world ever will, we easily find and pay attention to our every single shortcoming, such as our receding hairline, weak chin, and our big ears and nose and so on.

We notice these small flaws, no matter what they may be.

And because we see it, we assume everyone else does too.  But the fact is, most people aren't very observant, and unless they specifically look for something to criticize you about, they're not going to care about your insecurities, whatever they may be.

Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.

And insecurity is always unattractive.

Then remember, in every situation it is essential to focus on your good qualities rather than any shortcomings, since the positive will outshine the negative or at least balance it more in your favor.

Myth #4 - Good Looking Men Have It Made

This is probably the biggest myth there is - that if a guy is good looking, girls will automatically flock to him.

Those men have their own set of problems with women. Clearly in the beginning being attractive physically does help, however they have the same issues as the rest of us.

Attraction is about amping up the emotion that a woman feels when she's around you, and linking it to you in such a way where they only way she can get those feelings back is to be around you.

When a man matches the physical type of man, a woman prefers she naturally gravitates towards him, simply because those features appeal to her. Those feelings go away if she considers the man to be incompatible, a jerk or a bore.

For example, take a man that a woman is not physically attracted to initially and then give them some time while he causes her to experience pleasure, excitement and fun, eventually, she will become attracted to him.

Making others feel good causes them to want to be with you, this is a fundamental of attraction.

You need to learn how to interact with women, since you do not have to be a good looking man to make women feel good.

But the second aspect to this equation is SEXUAL attraction.

This is the ability to turn a woman on, as well as making her feel good while you are around them.

This is where the aspect of seduction comes into play.

When you begin to lead a woman down the path of sexual attraction, even if you don't look like Brad Pitt, she's going to begin to see you in a whole new light - despite any of the shortcomings you may think you have.